ADHD relationships satisfaction connection: Adult ADHD is a real thing: Unfortunately for adults, ADHD is often considered a “childhood” disorder. Sep-05-2022

Adult ADHD is a real thing

Unfortunately for adults, ADHD is often considered a “childhood” disorder. For several editions, the DSM focused the diagnostic criteria around early identification. While there is a growing belief among psychologists that adult ADHD is a “real” thing, the current diagnostic paradigm still provides a strong bias towards childhood and when the symptoms first appeared.

Regardless of when symptoms began, adult ADHD is not a ”childhood disease” that someone will outgrow. Adult ADHD has a physiological difference in the brain’s structure and neurochemistry often described as a deficiency in overall dopamine levels. Dopamine is responsible for feeling good and helps a person experience success upon completion of a project. Among other functions, dopamine is also assists with motor control, mood, memory, and attention. The low baseline dopamine level is what has lead to the distractibility “squirrel” prejudice of people with adult ADHD.

While I love empirical results, I’m not a therapist. It is not in my line of thinking to split hairs on who suffers from what because only three of the eight diagnostic criteria were met instead of the required five. What I’m concerned about is how someone’s “symptoms” interfere with how they want their life to be. My main diagnostic tools are question-based and include “are you happy?”, “are you operating at the level you want?”, “how does this impact your partner”, and “do you feel this is getting in the way of you living the life you want?”.

Roughly 60% of children with ADHD will continue to experience adult ADHD symptoms throughout adulthood. If, as an adult, you experience adult ADHD symptoms or are in a relationship with someone exhibiting adult ADHD symptoms, you know the impact adult ADHD can have. Don’t feel that you must make this journey alone. Littleton Couple’s Counseling provides both adult ADHD-informed couples counseling as well as adult ADHD coaching services.

Make an appointment today and take the first steps towards a more satisfying life.



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Tommy Underhill TTCD, ASDCS, ASDI Sex, Adult ADHD & Adult Autism

Tommy specializes in working with adults with ADHD and autism through a neurophysiological lens for social, relational, and sex issues. He oversees the long-term and strategic management for Littleton Couple’s Counseling. His entrepreneurship and small business management and operations span more than 30 years. Tommy is the Editor-in-Chief of the International Journal of Psychosexual Therapy. In his spare time, he runs a halfway house for wayward and abused orchids.

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What makes sex therapy different from “normal” therapy?

Sex therapy is a type of psychotherapy that focuses specifically on communication, relationships, intimacy, and sex. We often discuss low libido, desire discrepancy, painful intercourse, non-traditional relationships, orgasm difficulties, and sexual preferences.

What is sex therapy?

Sex therapy is a form of talk therapy that helps people deal with sexual problems and improve their sexual health and well-being. It’s important because we’re all sexual beings, and our mental health can affect our sexual desire and pleasure. Sex therapy can help people talk about uncomfortable things about sex, intimacy, and communication, but it’s important to remember that many sexual health problems could be solved if people talked openly about sex and their experiences.

Are you comfortable talking about ethical non-monagomy (ENM)?

Yes. Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is a relationship style that focuses on honesty, openness, and mutual agreement when it comes to having multiple romantic or sexual partners. Whether you’re just starting to think about this idea or have been curious for a while, ethical non-monogamy can be a really liberating way to love and connect. But it’s important to know that this lifestyle might not be right for everyone. That’s totally okay. The real question is, does ENM fit with your values and emotional needs?

Can you help with struggles with sex and religion?

You might be confused about why feelings about sex are so tough when you believe “God made us as we are.” This struggle and doubt can make you feel even more ashamed and alone from your partner. You might even wonder if you’re going through religious sexual trauma, even though you were never physically abused in the church. This unwanted religious sexual dysfunction can strain your intimate relationships, and it might make the pain, guilt, and shame you’ve been carrying since you were a kid even worse. We can help.

Are our sexual wants normal?

It can be tough to figure out what’s “normal” when it comes to sex, because everyone’s different. Instead of trying to fit in with what others think is “normal,” it’s more important to listen to your own body and mind. Think about what makes you feel good and what you’ve been wanting lately. Comparing yourself to others or to porn can make you feel bad about yourself, but if you’re struggling with your sexual identity, know that you’re not alone.

My partner and I have mismatched desire. Are we normal?

A common concern is the struggle with low libido or decreased arousal. Many people experience fluctuations in their sexual desire—often due to medical conditions, stress, or other underlying factors. If your current arousal levels differ significantly from the past or from your partner, discussing it with one of our certified psychosexual therapists can help alleviate anxiety and provide guidance on how to address the issue.

How do I know when it’s time to talk to someone about my sexual issues?

If you’ve been looking for info about sex therapy and common sexual concerns, you’ve already taken a huge step towards acknowledging your worries. If your concerns keep you up a night, talking to a sex therapist could give you some clarity and help you find solutions.